This is something that I have been wrestling with lately. Holiness is talked about all through out the Bible. What does it mean when the Word says “For God did not call us to be impure, but to live a holy life.” — 1 Thessalonians 4:7

That word holy means “set apart.”

To be set apart is to live separately from the world. Which means when I was of this world, I acted of this world. I talked like this world. I dressed like the world. But when I came to Christ I should be a new creation. Walking “differently.”

In the world, sex easily becomes an idol—a source of pleasure without purpose. It’s treated as casual, something to chase, something to use, something to give away without much thought. It loses its value. It loses its weight. What was meant to be meaningful becomes common.

And if I’m being honest, I’ve lived that.

I’ve made mistakes. I’ve given pieces of myself to people who didn’t value me the way they should have. I treated something sacred like it was small. I confused attention with intimacy, and connection with closeness. And in the end, it left me feeling emptier, not fuller.

But this is where holiness starts to mean something real to me.

Holiness isn’t about pretending I’ve always gotten it right. It’s about choosing something different now.

It’s about saying: I don’t want to keep living for pleasure. I don’t want to keep following patterns that leave me drained. I want to be set apart—even in this.

I want to honor God with my body. I want my choices, especially in my sex life, to reflect intention instead of impulse. Not out of fear or shame, but out of understanding that what I do actually matters.

Because the truth is, there’s a difference between pleasure and intimacy.

Pleasure is quick. It’s temporary. It takes more than it gives if it’s not rooted in something deeper.

But true intimacy?
It’s built. It’s safe. It’s honest. It requires presence, trust, and commitment. It doesn’t leave you questioning your worth afterward.

I want something sacred. I want something honest. I want something that aligns with who I’m becoming—not who I used to be.

So holiness is what I chase.